I honestly dislike judgmental people, but I am not going to lie – I have definitely judged people in my life. Hey, I’m not perfect and we all do it to some extent. What really bothers me is when people start to judge each other on how sexually advanced someone is. Prudes are judged for being very conservative (stereotypically) but I think girls that are more involved with guys are judged way harsher. I think slut shaming is stupid and pointless, especially in high school. I am only a sophomore but what I have observed is that girls are called sluts just for making out with boys that aren’t their boyfriends or if things go a little farther than just kissing. But the thing is that people become sexually active at different rates.
Confession: When I saw the teaser Bisexual Men Do Exist, Study Finds on the New York Times home page last week, I laughed. Bi erasure is a real, frustrating cultural phenomenon―at times it seems that we are simply incapable of imagining more than one kind of erotic desire happening in a human being at the same time―but there was just something about seeing that featured on the website for the paper of record that seemed ludicrous.
That’s the subject of this post over at Owl Asylum. To my mind, the arguments are equally persuasive reasons to refrain from putting one’s own genitals in one’s friend‘s mouth (I think the logic works like that). Here are some highlights excerpted from Owl’s post. (Warning: strong non-academic language – ehem; the asterisks below are mine, not Owl’s; also not a good read if you’re having a high-second-wave-theory day.) I admit to rolling with laughter and appreciation.
Notice: To sexually active women of all ages who have ever hesitated to ask their partners to suit up and wear protection. Fear no more! You now have an outspoken advocate on your side. Lady Gaga is on the case with the message, “Live with passion, love with protection.”
This headline from the New York Times is full of win: “No Surprise for Bisexual Men: Report Indicates They Exist.” Thank you science! A study released in 2005 suggested that male bisexuality didn’t exist – men who claimed to be bi were actually gay. I’m sure the fact the study authors advertised for participants in gay-oriented publications had nothing to do with that result. This time, researchers actually looked for bi guys. Radical idea, right?
A new study has found something about bisexual men that may surprise some people: they exist! The study took the revolutionary step of attempting to recruit bisexual men by recruiting in online venues that actually targeted bisexual men, as opposed to previous studies which had recruited by advertising in gay-oriented publications. A lot of bisexual men (and other not-gay men on the queer spectrum) do frequent gay online venues, but still. You’re going to find a lot more bi men frequenting venues actually targeted at them!
I like to think I’m the kind of New Yorker Michele Bachmann sees when she closes her eyes and dreams presidentially. So when I heard that New York City was requiring public schools to teach sex-education classes to students from sixth grade through high school, the news to me was that it was news. This is
More than a million young pilgrims have flooded into Madrid for the 26th Catholic World Youth Day (WYD). The event, begun in 1984 by Pope John Paul II, is held every two or three years. It is the single largest meeting of Catholics in the world. Over the past few decades, the WYD has picked up a lot of traditions—from trading flags, to welcoming the Pope. But another, more subversive tradition has sprung up too—most years there is a protest against the Pope’s stance on human sexuality. This year, 30 brave young people calling themselves “World Youth Day 4 All” (affiliated with Catholics for Choice) have hit the streets of the WYD gathering to spread the news: Good Catholics Use Condoms.
The New York Times has an article today on the efforts of one Vietnamese woman to end the stigma and ostracism associated with sex work in her small and impoverished village. In Vang Thi Mai’s village, women have been systematically abducted and trafficked across the border into China to do sex work, and when they return to the village, they are shamed and shunned. Mai takes them in and trains them in textile work, thereby enabling them to earn a living: