Marriage Mayhem Archives

New York leads in never-married women — but what about the men?

From: discoverfeminism.com |

New York state has the highest percentage of never-married women in the country, and in New York City it’s even higher. 34.8 percent of New York state women over the age of 15 have never married; in the city, it’s 41.7 percent. That’s not particularly surprising — culturally, it’s odd to get married before you’re 30 in New York. The only friends of mine who are under 30 and married don’t live in New York — they’re folks who I went to high school with, or college friends who left the city before getting engaged. The only people I know who are under 30 and live in New York and are married are other lawyers — something I suspect ties into an existing risk-aversion, desire for stability and personal (not political) conservatism amongst people who go into law, as well as the fact that the people I know from law school and work have entered into steady careers that make marriage and family more feasible.

“Win a Wife” Contest: The Business of Foreign Matchmaking

From: discoverfeminism.com |

“Win a Trip to Russia To Pick the Bride of Your Choice”. This was the name of a recent article I came across on the well-known feminist pop-culture blog Jezebel. A title as alarming as this was hard to ignore, and the article that followed reflected a disturbing but real contest that is being produced and promoted by a rock-music radio station in Edmonton, Canada. As I first glanced through the piece I thought there had to be some kind of catch but the description of the contest, strikingly entitled “Win A Wife”, was as follows:

What China’s new marriage law has to do with American social conservatism

From: discoverfeminism.com |

Last month, a new interpretation of Chinese law went into effect that awards ownership of property bought before marriage to the original buyer, rather than to the couple jointly, as the law had previously been.

Relationship Advice – Marriage 101

From: discoverfeminism.com |

Okay…all the single women gather ’round and I will share with you the vast bounty of my relationship knowledge. I know the key to getting married! And since obviously every female person is desirous of a state sanctioned relationship with a single dude, I am providing this information to you.

Plans Underway for Mass Same-Sex Wedding in Taiwan

From: discoverfeminism.com |

After the state of New York legalized marriage equality in June, I suspected that other states and countries would soon follow suit. Not much has happened in the last two months, but now things may be starting to change. Later this month, Taipei City, Taiwan will host a mass wedding of approximately 60 lesbian couples.

Notes from a bitch… a problem in search of a fix or a fix in search of a problem…

From: discoverfeminism.com |

I recently read An Interracial Fix for Black Marriage by Ralph Richard Banks published in the Wall Street Journal. In the article, Banks points to the lower rate of marriage among black women as compared to the general population and attempts to make the case that interracial marriage is the likely “fix” because it would solve the problem of unwed black women and create pressure on black men by lowering the number of available women for them to

Are Childless Couples More Likely to Divorce?

From: discoverfeminism.com |

Are the childless more likely to divorce? This was the question posed to me by Vicki Larson, a journalist for Huffingtonpost.com, recently, and it gave me the opportunity to clarify. She contacted me because she wanted to know why childless couples are more likely to end up divorced than couples with children, and this is how I responded in the subsequent article titled article titled “Are Childless Couples headed for Divorce?”

RELATING RADICALLY: Polygamy in Utah and the Right to Privacy

From: discoverfeminism.com |

Okay folks, it’s time to put on my legal hat. I recently came across a case that brings up some really interesting questions about law, feminism, and relationships, and I’d like to share some of the issues with you.  This is a case about marriage, sort of, but not same-sex marriage.  It’s a case about a law that interferes with privacy in the bedroom, but it’s not a sodomy law.  It’s a case that’s going to make the parade of horrible folks really, really nervous.

Plantation weddings, and ignoring the past

From: discoverfeminism.com |

Flying your family and friends down for a destination wedding in South Africa celebrating “colonial Africa” and staffed by expressionless, befezzed Africans is creepy. I’m the kind of person who likes to give the benefit of the doubt, so I’m going to say that this couple was just painfully, criminally ignorant, because the thought that they were fully aware of the implications and just thought it was charming could make me lose my faith in humanity.

A very gay Sunday, indeed

From: discoverfeminism.com |

Yesterday was the first official day for gay marriage in New York. Don’t these pictures just say it all?      

Congrats to 823 New York Newlyweds

From: discoverfeminism.com |

By now, you’ve probably heard that New York has legalized same-sex marriage. On Sunday, the first official day that couples could tie the knot, 823 couples took advantage of their new right and said “I do.” At first, state officials were considering a lottery system for same-sex marriage, anticipating a flood of marriages that they wouldn’t be able to officiate. But once the big day rolled around, the anticipated tide of couples wasn’t rushing to the city hall altar, and the city accommodated all of those who wished to be wed.

 

Emens on Marriage and Naming Conventions: “A Simple Hyphen Will Do”

From: discoverfeminism.com |

Earlier this month, Elizabeth Emens (Columbia) published an op-ed “A Simple Hyphen Will Do” in the New York Times (here). Here is an excerpt:

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